Map Your Loop™
See what may be happening beneath the behaviour you want to change.
Most of us know the behaviour we want to change. What we don't always see is the pattern happening immediately before it.
Take a few minutes to map yours.
I'll guide you through it.
Before we begin
So I know who I'm speaking with.
Your loop stays private. I'll read it personally.
01 — The Behaviour
What behaviour do you want to change?
Describe the thing you keep doing, avoiding or repeating that you most want to change.
02 — Go Back To The Moment Before
Think of the last time this happened.
Go back to the few minutes or moments immediately before the behaviour.
What was happening around you? What were you thinking? What were you assuming was true?
Don't overthink your answers. We're simply looking for what happens inside you before the behaviour begins.
03 — The Lens
What were you telling yourself?
What were you thinking or assuming about yourself, another person or what was about to happen?
They're judging me. I'm going to fail. I can't cope. I need to fix this. I'm being rejected. Something is going to go wrong.
04 — The Emotion
What did you feel?
What emotion appeared with that thought?
Anxious. Ashamed. Lonely. Angry. Overwhelmed. Insecure. Numb. Restless.
05 — The Urge
What did you feel pulled to do?
Before the behaviour happened, what did you feel an urge to do?
Escape. Control. Please. Prove myself. Shut down. Seek reassurance. Avoid. Numb. Fix.
06 — The Behaviour
And then you…
Change it if you'd say it differently now.
07 — The Outcome
What does this behaviour leave you with?
What usually happens afterwards? What does this behaviour cost you — in your relationships, confidence, health, work, money or sense of self?
Your loop is beginning to appear.
- It starts with a belief…
- Which makes me feel…
- Which makes me want to…
- Which leads me to…
- Which creates a life where…
What you've just mapped is the part of your Recode Loop™ you can already see.
What sits beneath it is the subconscious code. And that's the part I want to help you understand.
The Last Step
Send me your loop and I'll personally review it.
I'll reply with what I notice about the loop you may be living inside — including the subconscious code that may be sitting beneath it and the way your current life may be reinforcing it.
Sent privately to Caroline. Nothing is published, and you can ask to be removed at any time.
Your loop is with Caroline
Thank you for trusting me with this.
I read every one of these myself. You'll hear from me directly — I'll tell you what I notice in your loop and where I'd be curious to look deeper.
Until then, be gentle with the pattern. It was learned. And what was learned can be changed.